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Prevention Education Advocate

The Women’s Resource Center is seeking a professional for the full-time Prevention Education Advocate position. The PEA will teach healthy relationships dynamics (with a provided curriculum) to middle school and high school aged students within participating schools and programs in the Cleveland County area.

Applicant must have flexible daytime and weekend schedule, reliable source of transportation, experience with public speaking and/or facilitating conversations, social media competency (including Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Snapchat) competent working with computer programs such as Microsoft Word, Excel, Powerpoint, and Prezi and must enjoy working with youth.

Job Description:

Prevention Education at Women’s Resource Center utilizes a multi-level, public health approach in promoting healthy relationships. Women’s Resource Center has created a program that aims to reach multiple levels of involvement to better serve our community.

Primary prevention aims to prevent domestic violence and sexual assault before it ever occurs. Our prevention programming focuses on creating a culture in which domestic violence and sexual assault is not tolerated. Currently, this is accomplished through multiple presentations for adolescents, trainings for teachers, and workshops for parents. It is our belief that the earlier we can teach youth what healthy relationships are, the less likely they are to experience an unhealthy one later in life.

Job Responsibilities:

  • Prepare, schedule, facilitate a multi-session evidence-based healthy relationship promotion program to middle/high school students, addressing primary principles in the prevention of domestic and sexual violence
  • Develop, schedule, facilitate single-session prevention education programs on healthy communication, dating violence, sexual harassment, sexual assault, and importance of prevention services to community groups, area schools, churches, civic/professional groups, school police officers, and parents/guardians
  • Creation and implementation of public health model, multi-level prevention program in the community utilizing community assessment and needs assessments
  • Represent Women’s Resource Center at specified conferences, functions, events, and committees
  • Prepare and submit accurate monthly data reports of program activities
  • Provide outreach via social media blogs
  • Maintain accurate data regarding number of presentations delivered
  • Input data analysis for schools, including administering surveys, data input, analyze data, report findings
  • Prepare and submits reports to Executive Director and program funding agencies

Job Requirements:
Preferred: Bachelor’s Degree in Education, Public Health, Women’s and Gender Studies, or related field. Experience in the health promotion field preferred. Will consider a combination of education and experience.
To apply email resume and cover letter to: wrc@wrcweb.net

Women’s Resource Center Gala Scheduled

Women’s Resource Center Gala

Scheduled for Dec. 9

The Women’s Resource Center Gala, the Norman-based organization’s annual event to raise awareness about the effects of domestic and sexual violence on individuals, families and the community, is scheduled for Saturday, Dec. 9, at the Sam Noble Museum of Natural History, 2401 Chautauqua Ave.

Keynote speaker is author/blogger/businesswoman Leslie Morgan Steiner, a frequent speaker about family violence. Her talk at the gala will take us on the roller coaster experience of falling in love with, marrying, and ultimately leaving, an abusive man in her 20s. She will include personal tips on how to prevent abusive relationships and help loved ones who are being physically or emotionally abused.

Steiner is the author of the New York Times bestselling memoir Crazy Love. Her TED Talk about surviving domestic violence, “From the Ivy League to a Gun at My Head,” has been viewed by over 3 million people. She is a regular national television and radio guest, appearing on National Public Radio, NBC’s Today Show, The Diane Rehm Show, MSNBC, Fox News, and other programs.

A graduate of Harvard College, Steiner’s first job was as an editor at Seventeen Magazine. She financed her MBA in marketing from Wharton by writing for Seventeen, Mademoiselle, New England Monthly and Money Magazine.

Gala tickets are $75, individual; $1,000, sponsored tables, and may be purchased online at wrcnormanok.org/wrc-gala. For more information on sponsorship opportunities, call Kyla McMoran at 364.9424.

Women’s Resource Center to Generate Awareness on Perils of Domestic Violence

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Throughout the month, the Women’s Resource Center will be actively engaging the community at local events, raising awareness about the perils of domestic violence on individuals, families and the community.

According the State of Oklahoma Fatality Review Board, 96-percent of domestic violence homicide victims never spoke to a trained domestic violence advocate.

The Women’s Resource Center provides emergency shelter, advocacy, court advocacy, safety planning, forensic exams, Domestic Violence Education Group, counseling, prevention education and community education.

“The WRC has been providing care and services to victims of domestic and sexual violence since 1975,” Dr. Lisa Frey, board chair said. “While the number of services we provided in the last year are up, there are a still a lot of people in the community that don’t know about the WRC. We want to change that.”

Domestic violence affects one in four women in her lifetime – that’s more women than breast cancer, ovarian cancer and lung cancer combined. Most people think only of physical abuse when they consider domestic violence, yet financial abuse happens in 99% of all domestic violence cases.

To combat financial abuse, the WRC will be participating in the AllState Purple Purse Challenge. Allstate helps provide financial empowerment for victims and survivors of domestic violence. Every year, Allstate helps raise awareness through weekly fundraising challenges. Local shelters compete for unrestricted grant money awarded at the end of the month.

The 2017 Purple Purse was designed by Serena Williams. Each of the chosen shelters are given one purse to auction off as part of their fundraising efforts. The WRC’s purple purse will be auctioned off on Friday, October 6 at the “Art for the Senses” event.

“Art for the Senses: an event for the Women’s Resource Center,” is a come and go, public event to raise awareness and funds benefitting the WRC. HEAR live music; SEE beautiful artworks; SMELL aromatic floral arrangements; TASTE scrumptious hors devours; and FEEL good about supporting a worthy cause.

The event is scheduled for Friday, October 6, 6-9 p.m., at south Norman residence. RSVP to kyla@wrcweb.net. There is no cost for the event. RSVPs are for planning purposes only.

WRC will be at the following events in October:

  • Community Team Benefit Car Show – Saturday, September 30 – 10 a.m. to 2 p.m., Hemispheres, 640 SW 19th, Moore, OK 73160
  • Groovefest – Sunday, October 1 – 11 a.m. to 6 p.m., Andrews Park, 201 W. Daws, Norman, OK 73069
  • A Walk in Her Shoes: Domestic Violence Education Role Play – Thursday, October 5 – 9 a.m. to noon, Norman Chamber of Commerce, 115 E. Gray St., Norman, OK 73069
  • Art for the Senses – Friday, October 6 – 6 p.m. to 9 p.m., at a south Norman home. RSVP to kyla@wrcweb.net for details.
  • Hair of the Dog Oktoberfest – Friday, October 13 – 6 p.m. to 9 p.m., STASH, 412 E. Main St. Purchase tickets at http://stashok.com/
  • Silent Witness Display – Wednesday, October 18 – 9 a.m. to 3 p.m., Noble Public Library, 204 N. 5th, Noble, OK 73068
  • Silent Witness Display – Thursday, October 19 – 9 a.m. to 3 p.m., Moore Public Library, 225 S. Howard Ave., Moore, OK 73160
  • OAWL Auction – Thursday, October 19 – 6 p.m. – Location TBD
  • Silent Witness Display – Friday, October 20 – 12 p.m. to 6 p.m., Norman Public Library, 225 S. Webster, Norman, OK 73069
  • Noble Fall Festival – Saturday, October 21 – 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. – 114 N. Main St., Noble, OK 73068
  • Open Mic Night – Saturday, October 21 – 6 p.m. to 9 p.m., Opolis, 113 N. Crawford Ave., Norman, OK 73069
  • Domestic Violence Awareness Bubble Release – Monday, October 23 – 11 a.m., 617 W. Rock Creek Rd., Norman, OK 73072
Ways to Help Prevent Dating Violence

Ways to Help Prevent Dating Violence

Dating Violence


Dating abuse is defined as physical, emotional, verbal, sexual violence, or stalking in a dating relationship. Dating abuse can occur in person or electronically and can occur between current or former dating partners. A violent relationship may have one type of violence or many forms of violence, but a relationship with any violence can lead to severe outcomes. The different types of abuse can look different in every relationship, but all can have long-term effects.

Knowing the warning signs of an abusive relationship and what a healthy relationship looks like is a great way to prevent relationship violence; however, relationship abuse can happen to anyone and it is never their fault.

It is possible someone might not even know they are in an abusive relationship if they don’t know the signs or the different forms of abuse! Listed below is some of the signs to look for of a violent relationship.

  • Being isolated from friends and family
  • Squeezing your hand
  • Throwing things at you when upset
  • Being physically hurt
  • Having big fights often
  • Telling lies/spreading rumors about you
  • Threatening to hurt themselves
  • Driving recklessly while you are present
  • Cheating
  • Forcing you to engage in sexual activities
  • Being unable to control your own feelings and emotions
  • Partner telling you how to dress
  • Partner choosing who you can speak to
  • Changing your behavior to appease your partner
  • Feeling nervous or anxious when your partner gets upset
  • Being made to feel guilty
  • Being put down or humiliated in public by partner
  • The feeling that you can never do right in the relationship
  • Partner having strong beliefs about gender roles
  • Being threatened
  • Partner accuses you of things you have not done
  • Partner feeling like they have the right to touch you however they want
  • Feeling manipulated or controlled
  • Not having access to your own money
  • Blame you for how they treat you
  • Extreme changes in mood towards you
  • Belittling
  • Squeezing your hand
  • Throwing things at you when upset
  • Being physically hurt
  • Having big fights often
  • Telling lies/spreading rumors about you
  • Threatening to hurt themselves
  • Driving recklessly while you are present
  • Cheating
  • Forcing you to engage in sexual activities
  • Being unable to control your own feelings and emotions


What can you do if you think a friend might be in a violent relationship?

As a friend, you might just know when something feels “off”. Trust your gut, but also be very careful in addressing your friend. When someone is in a violent relationship it is a very fragile time in their life. The most injuries usually occur when someone is trying to leave a violent relationship.  Have a plan when confronting the situation, remain calm, and do not address the abuser. Remember, you cannot make your friend leave a violent relationship. The best thing you can give your friend is support and love; those are two things that the abuser has taken away from them.

If your friend discloses an abusive relationship to you there are very crucial steps you must take.

  1. Always believe their story– Listen to what your friend is saying. This is not   a time for “I knew it” and “I told you”. Be kind and loving. Telling you may be the first time your friend has felt safe in a very long time. Ask your friend if it is okay to hug them before doing so. A hug from you may be the first loving touch they have felt in a while.
  1. Tell them they do not deserve what happened to them– Your first response to your friend is very critical. They are already feeling ashamed and like it is their fault, they do not need you to confirm that through questions like “Why did you let that happen to you” or “why didn’t you tell me sooner?”. Thank your friend for trusting you with this information and tell them that nothing is their fault and they did not deserve what happened.
  1. Let them make their decision about the relationship– While telling your friend that they should not be in this relationship; it is not your choice to make. This can be the first decision they have made in a long time due to their partner controlling their life. Go over what abusive relationships look like and your concerns, but let your friend decide what they are going to do about the situation. Be supportive no matter what they decide.
  1. Make a safety plan– Regardless of what your friend decides it is important to make a safety plan with them. This can be done through identifying how they are going to leave the relationship, where they are going to go, and making sure they have a safe place. Remember, most severe injuries usually occur when someone is leaving a violent relationship. Make sure to give local resources to your friend at this time.
  1. Be there– the last step is simple, just be there. Even if your friend doesn’t want to talk, be supportive. Do not spread rumors about what your friend has told you, they are trusting you with this information. Leaving an abusive relationship does not make everything better, after the relationship is when the real work begins. Continue to check on your friend and let them know you care.

Women’s Resource Center welcomes new Board Leadership

Women's Resource Center - Norman Oklahoma

The Women’s Resource Center is beginning a new fiscal year under new board leadership.

Dr. Lisa Frey, Associate Professor for the Counseling Psychology Program at the University of Oklahoma, will take the helm as the board President. Mari Newcomer, Nurse Manager for the Women’s and Children’s Unit at Norman Regional Hospital, will serve as Vice President/President Elect. Raymond Goins, immediate Past President and Norman Police Department Detective Sergeant will serve as Treasurer. Anna Parker, retired RN, will serve as Secretary.

The board recently began a month’s long development process, working with Kira Switzer of Switzer Consulting. They will focus on three core areas of need: Board Development, Expanding Programming, and Fundraising. Three subcommittees were formed and meet monthly with Switzer to keep the focus meaningful and responsive to the changing needs and talent of the board members.

Dr. Frey is a licensed psychologist, a consultant, and an Associate Professor in the Counseling Psychology Program at the University of Oklahoma (OU). She is also a core faculty member in African and African American Studies, a core affiliate faculty member in Women’s and Gender Studies, and an affiliate faculty member in the Center for Social Justice.  Dr. Frey is the Director of the OU Counseling Psychology Clinic. She has been on the WRC board for seven years and has served in various board leadership roles.

Dr. Frey’s teaching, research, and clinical work have been shaped by her commitment to and passion for community engagement and social justice. Specifically, her interests are related to issues of violence, especially sexual abuse and assault; multiculturalism and intersectionality; relational cultural theory; at-risk youth; and institutional betrayal. She operated a full-time clinical and consulting practice for many years with a focus on the treatment of abuse victims/survivors and adolescents who sexually abuse. She continues to do consulting and clinical work on a part-time basis, primarily working with clients who have experienced trauma and youth dealing with identity issues.

Newcomer, has been a registered nurse since 1981. She has been at Norman Regional Health System since 1989 as the Nurse Manager. Before moving to NRHS, Newcomer was employed at Gilbert Medical Center. Newcomer serves on the Fetal and Infant Mortality Advisory Board (OK and Cleveland County); Cleveland County Action Team whose mission is to prevent infant death. She has been a member of the WRC board for two years.

SGT Goins has been an officer of the Norman Police Department since March 1997. Prior to coming to Norman Police Department, SGT Goins was a patrolman with the Roswell, New Mexico Police Department and a Military Policeman with the U.S. Army. SGT Goins coordinates the domestic violence academy and in-service training for Norman Police Department and has been certified by the Federal Law Enforcement Training Center (FLETC) as a domestic violence instructor. He is also a member of the Cleveland County Domestic Violence Task Force, and Cleveland County Domestic Violence Coordinated Community Response Team. SGT Goins has been a member of the Board of Directors for the Women’s Resource Center since 2009 and has served as Board Secretary, President Elect and President.

Parker, is a retired RN. She worked for Norman Regional Health System for 30 years and for Dr.’s David Porter and Carol Anderson. She has been a member of the WRC board for one year and will serve as board secretary.

More info about the Women’s Resource Center:

“We believe that women have the right to live in safety, to be treated with dignity, to make choices and to hope.” Our long-term goal is to reduce domestic violence (DV), sexual violence (SV), and stalking in our community by providing education, prevention, and emergency services.

Since 1975, the Women’s Resource Center (WRC) has helped women live better lives. Over the years we have redefined our goals to meet the changing needs of the community. In response to those needs the WRC Domestic Violence Shelter opened in 1980; the Rape Crisis Center opened in 2004; the Satellite/Public Office opened in 2014; the Norman Investigations Center office opened in 2016; and in 2017 we added a full-time prevention/education advocate.

The Four Forms of Domestic Violence

Domestic violence isn’t a black-and-white term. There are different types of domestic violence, each presented in a different way and each carrying their own effect on the victim. Knowing the difference can not only help you to realize them, but to understand the true gravity of what millions of women have endured, and continue to endure every day.




  • Inflicting or attempting to inflict physical injury

Conducting uncomfortable or unwanted movements towards the victim can be a common act that leads to further intentions of physical attempts. Sometimes even taking away objects aiding in keeping health stability, such as medication or wheelchairs.




  • Coercing or attempting to coerce any sexual contact without consent

Sexual assault, another more widely recognized form of domestic violence, includes rape, attacks on sexual parts of the body, forced prostitution, and more. Any kind of sexual contact that occurs without the victim’s consent is considered sexual assault. Attempting to undermine the victim’ sexuality can occur when treating the victim in a sexually derogatory manner, withholding sex, and criticizing sexual performance and desirability.




  • Instilling or attempting to instill fear

Intimidation, threatening physical harm to victim or to oneself, threatening to harm or kidnap children, blackmail, destruction of pets or property, mind games, and stalking all fall under psychological abuse. This is looked at when limiting anothers action and contact, and being hostile towards the victim.



  • Undermining or attempting to undermine victim sense of worth

constant criticism, belittling victim’s abilities and competency, name-calling, insults, put-downs, silent treatment, manipulating victim’s feelings and emotions to induce guilt, subverting a partner’s relationship with the children, repeatedly making and breaking promises.

3 Components of Rape Culture and What You Can Do to Fight Back

 From a piece by Christin P. Bowman, MS, MA (Doctoral student in Critical Social-Personality Psychology at The Graduate Center, City University of New York))

To begin, rape is caused by rape culture.

Rape culture is a phenomenon that is made up of many different ingredients – and so, like a recipe, when they are combined together it can be difficult to identify each individual flavor. Rape culture is so entrenched in our society that it is hard for people to even recognize, much less prevent. It is important to educate yourself and others to change this culture and combat its effects.

#1 Power, Anger, and Hyper-Masculinity

While it may be true that men perform the vast majority of raping in society, they did not become rapists through a vacuum.

Our society values men who conform to the revered idea of hyper-masculinity: men should be powerful, dominant, and emotionless – except for when it comes to anger. Research shows that most rapes are an outcome of a need for power or outlet for anger. Hyper-masculinity also suggests that men are always, no matter what, hungry for sex. Our society’s rhetoric and history depicts the idea that a man’s sex drive is so uncontrollable and all-consuming, a woman somehow owes it to him to allow him to release those desires. We’ve all heard the phrase “she was asking for it” and “leading on”, suggesting that if a woman were to allegedly engage in these behaviors then she is not allowed to change her mind, and rape is justifiable.

It has been said that rape is “human nature” – which is still used as a justification for it today. But men are not all rapists by nature. Men are socialized by a rape culture which promotes that hyper-masculinity we’re talking about. Simply blaming men is unfair and sells them short – we must acknowledge the culture that makes (some) of them that way.

#2 Sexual Objectification

Our society’s obsession with a woman’s body intensifies rape culture. Girls are taught from a young age that their most important feature is the way they look, and boys are taught to value that feature above all else. This focus on women’s appearance to see their own selves as sexual objects, or self-objectification. This can lead to body shame, low self-esteem, and sexual dysfunction. This objectification of women dehumanizes them- or makes them seem more like an object: something that doesn’t have thoughts or feelings, which you can do what you want with. To this end, it is much easier to commit violence against a woman that you don’t respect, or don’t even view as human.

#3 Systemic and Institutional Support

When classifying a problem as “systemic”, it means that the issue spreads throughout the whole system (or society). When something is “institutional”, it means there are structures and mechanisms in place to maintain it. Rape culture is both.

When a rape victim comes forward, they are subjected to essentially an interrogation that is oftentimes invasive, offensive, and derogatory. They often are made to feel the need to defend themselves or the circumstances of the rape, because of the common rhetoric implying that the situation is somehow her fault. Furthermore, there are thousands of cases in which a rape kit was never even analyzed. These things are not the fault of one individual – they are embedded in our very social order.

Perhaps the most significant (and damaging) case made against rape is that women lie about it. They are painted as emotional nutcases who pull the “rape card” when something doesn’t go their way. They “overreact” or “blow it out of proportion” just like all women supposedly do. Due to the nature of the crime and the role consent plays, rape crimes are notoriously some of the hardest to prove. This has created a society that instantly questions the victim’s believability before they even approach the subject of whose fault it was.

These discrepancies have created a conversation wherein rape can be “illegitimate”, or “a mistake”, or even “an accident.” Many politicians defend rapists by claiming that the “blurred line” was too blurry to be held responsible for, as if restraining oneself from having sex is never an acceptable alternative. The issue of sex crimes is not viewed as black and white. Gray means go, when it should mean no.

This systemic rhetoric’s damage is already done. Women are ridiculed, belittled, and ignored when they actually do have the courage to come forward, and research shows that thousands go unreported every year.

The following is directly from Christin P. Bowman’s article:


How to Fight Back

Preventing rape means changing an entire culture. Here’s how to get started:

Encourage boys and men to express emotions and unravel hyper-masculinity: William Pollack’s work is a great place to start, and look out for a documentary on the topic coming soon.

Push back against sexual objectification: Evidence-based activists at the girl-fueled organization, SPARK, provide a great model and the Miss Representation documentary is a must.

Rape prevention courses: Foubert, Godin, and Tatum found that men can take a rape prevention class in college that affects them for years. The course teaches empathy and then how to intervene in dangerous situations, support a rape survivor, and even confront others who tell jokes about rape. Another study by Klaw and colleagues found similar results. Get involved here.

Engage bystanders: Cases like the Steubenville rapes remind us there are often times when people see something bad happening, and don’t know how to stop it. The National Sexual Violence Resource Center provides tons of research and information about how to reverse this trend.

Change public perception of what’s acceptable: Several successful anti-rape campaigns all around the globe are working to dismantle rape culture. Check out the “Don’t be that guy” campaign in Canada that has cut sexual assaults in Vancouver by 10%. A campaign in the UK takes a similar approach. Feminist organizations like Take Back the Night and V-Day have long histories of pushing back against sexual violence. And remember that women have many male allies committed to tearing down rape culture (including President Obama).”