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The Rape Crisis Center and Sexual Violence

The Rape Crisis Center started in 2003 and has been providing sexual assault aftercare ever since. We serve hundreds of people and their loved ones each year. We also provide domestic violence forensic exams. Below you will find numerous frequently asked questions. If you have any other questions please call (405) 701-5660.

Sexual Assault FAQs

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What should I do after a sexual assault?

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  • Go to a safe place immediately. You can call the Rape Crisis Center 24/7 and go straight to the Center (as long as you are not severely physically injured). You can also go to the nearest hospital emergency room.
  • It’s best not to shower or eat/drink/smoke. If you want to do any of these things, you can still receive a sexual assault exam.
  • If you have changed out of the clothes you were wearing during the assault, bring them to the exam in a paper bag.
  • You can get a sexual assault exam up to 9 days after an assault but the sooner you have one, the better.
My loved one just told me they were sexually assaulted, what do I do?

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  • If it happened recently (within the last 9 days) then tell them they can get an exam done by a Sexual Assault Nurse Examiner for free.
  • Let them know that you believe them. The #1 stated reason for not telling others is fear of not being believed.
  • Tell them that they did nothing wrong. No matter someone’s actions, the end consequence is never sexual assault.
  • Tell them that it’s not their fault. The only person responsible for this is the perpetrator.
  • Encourage them to seek help for themselves. Whatever help they decide that is, they deserve to receive that assistance.
  • Support whatever decision they choose. It may not be a decision that you would make for yourself. They know what is best for them and only they know what it is like to feel the way they do.
  • Even though you may not have all the answers, let them know that you are there for them.
What is the Rape Crisis Center?

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The Rape Crisis Center is a program of the Women’s Resource Center that provides sexual assault aftercare, information, and education. It is in a confidential location in Norman, Oklahoma. It is the only facility in Cleveland County where a trained Sexual Assault Nurse Examiner (SANE) and an advocate can provide sexual assault aftercare.

When you call the Rape Crisis Hotline, you can speak to an advocate over-the-phone or in-person about the assault. You will be provided with options and supported in whatever choices you make. Trained advocates can provide support, referrals and references regardless of what services you choose to receive. If you choose to bring loved ones, an advocate will be there to provide support and advocacy for them while you are at the Rape Crisis Center. We provide services to anyone over the age of 12. The Rape Crisis Center is the place you can go for a 24/7 crisis line, to report the assault to law enforcement, and to receive a sexual assault exam, advocacy, referrals, and court advocacy.  As you leave the Rape Crisis Center you will be given the option to receive follow-up advocacy in the coming weeks.

What are my options for reporting to law enforcement?

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Reporting to law enforcement

If you choose to report, you can report while at the Rape Crisis Center for services. An officer will come and speak to you and ask you questions about the assault. The Statute of Limitations (maximum amount of time to report a crime) is 12 years in Oklahoma.

Anonymous Reporting

If reporting is not right for you, you can still receive a sexual assault exam as long as you are at least 18 years old. If you are under 18 years old, the law requires everyone to report it to the Department of Human Services. If you choose to not to report but still want an exam, the Sexual Assault Nurse Examiner will provide medical care free of charge. If you want them to also collect evidence in case you change your mind in the future, they can collect all evidence except blood and urine for anonymous kits. The Sexual Assault Kit will be stored anonymously for at least 5 years and at maximum 12 years. If you decide that you want to report, then you can call the Rape Crisis Center and we can facilitate an officer meeting with you to begin an investigation.


I didn’t resist physically – does that mean it isn’t rape?

People respond to an assault in different ways. Just because you didn’t resist physically doesn’t mean it wasn’t rape — in fact, many victims make the good judgment that physical resistance would cause the attacker to become more violent. Lack of consent can be explicit (saying “no”) or it can be implied from the circumstances (for example, if you were under the statutory age of consent, or if you had a mental defect, or if you were afraid to object because the perpetrator threatened you with serious physical injury).

I thought “no,” but didn’t say it. Is it still rape?

If you didn’t say no because you were legitimately scared for your life or safety, then it would be considered rape. Sometimes it isn’t safe to resist, physically or verbally — for example, when someone has a knife or gun to your head, or threatens you or your family if you say anything.

I used to date the person who assaulted me – does that mean it isn’t rape?

Rape can occur when the offender and the victim have a pre-existing relationship (sometimes called “date rape” or “acquaintance rape”), or even when the offender is the victim’s spouse. It does not matter whether the other person is an ex-boyfriend or a complete stranger, and it doesn’t matter if you’ve had sex in the past. If it is nonconsensual this time, it is rape. (But be aware that a few states still have limitations on when spousal rape is a crime.)

I don’t remember the assault – does that mean it isn’t rape?

Just because you don’t remember being assaulted doesn’t necessarily mean it didn’t happen and that it wasn’t rape. Memory loss can result from the ingestion of GHB and other “rape drugs” and from excessive alcohol consumption. That said, without clear memories or physical evidence, it may not be possible to pursue prosecution (talk to your local crisis center or local police for guidance).

I was asleep or unconscious when it happened – does that mean it isn’t rape?

Rape can happen when the victim was unconscious or asleep. If you were asleep or unconscious, then you didn’t give consent. And if you didn’t give consent, then it is rape.

I was drunk or they were drunk – does that mean it isn’t rape?

Alcohol and drugs are not an excuse – or an alibi. The key question is still: did you consent or not? Regardless of whether you were drunk or sober, if the sex is nonconsensual, it is rape. Having sex while drunk is not rape. Having sex with another person who is too drunk to consent IS. If you feel like you weren’t able to say yes or no, then that’s sexual assault. If you were drinking and you are under the age of 21, it still doesn’t matter-you don’t deserve sexual violence.

How do you know if you were able to consent?

  • Do you feel like that was something you would have done in other circumstances?
  • Do you feel like you weren’t able to say ‘no’?
  • Are there some parts that you don’t remember?
  • Were you having trouble doing simple things-like walking and talking?

These are just some indicators that you weren’t able to give consent.

If the other person was drunk too, that’s not an alibi. Just like drunk driving has consequences, having sex with someone who can’t consent is not excusable under the influence.

What is sexual assault?

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Rape is a crime of power and control, not sex.  Rape is forcing someone to have sex against his or her will.  Both rapists and victims can come from all classes, races and backgrounds.  Anyone can be raped, and anyone can be a victim.

Anyone can be a victim of sexual assault.

Women, men, people between or outside of the gender binary; people who are able-bodied or differently able; young children, adults, or elderly; people who may be developmentally delayed or suffering from mental illness; strong or weak; sex workers; under the influence of legal or illegal substances or sober; dressed conservatively or otherwise; married, partnered, single or celibate; heterosexual, homosexual, or somewhere in between; documented or undocumented; homeless or housed. Sexual violence does not discriminate. All people deserve to be treated with respect and dignity, and no one has the right to control your body but you. Nothing justifies sexual assault.

Sexual assault is any forced or coerced sexual activity, such as unwanted touching, committed against a person’s will or without consent. Rape is a form of sexual assault that includes but is not limited to forced vaginal, anal and oral penetration.

Rape and sexual assault are crimes of violence with sex used as a weapon that can be committed by strangers, friends, relatives, dates, partners and spouses.


Sexual assault is any forced or coerced sexual activity, such as unwanted touching, committed against a person’s will or without consent.

Someone can force another person to have sex by:

  • Physical force: holding down, beating up the survivor or using a weapon.
  • Threat of force: threatening to hurt the survivor or using physical size/strength to intimidate.
  • Drugs or Alcohol: getting the survivor drunk, putting a drug in the survivor’s drink or taking advantage of the fact that someone is too drunk or high to consent to having sex.


  • The assault was not your fault. You are the survivor of a crime.
  • Any reaction or feeling after an assault is normal.
  • Sexual assault is a major crisis. Take good care of yourself.
  • People often lack understanding about the issues of sexual assault. Don’t be surprised if people’s responses to your assault seem insensitive.
  • Ask for help. You are not alone.
  • You have every right to be upset. Take time to understand and deal with your feelings.
  • Find a caring person and talk about your experience or call us

If you’ve been raped or sexually assaulted, or even if you aren’t sure, contact the Women’s Resource Center Rape Crisis Center (405-701-5660) or the National Sexual Assault Hotline (1-800-656-HOPE) for free, confidential help, day or night.

Adapted from: https://rainn.org/get-information/types-of-sexual-assault/was-it-rape